5/30/11

My sweet darling baby made us breakfast yesterday. 
Kitty Litter a'la Poo Poo.
We are willing to share.

5/29/11

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to You, Lord, my rock and my Redeemer.

5/28/11

Lifted

The fog is beginning to lift, but only slightly.  Slightly is enough for now though.  It started Wednesday night after I went to my first house church meeting.  I was so intimidated by my surroundings.  The houses in the neighborhood were stunning and huge.  I kept driving looking at house after house thinking that they can't all be this lovely, then I would find another one even nicer than the last one.  When I pulled up to the hosts house, I was speechless and the kids and I just stood there for a moment marveling. The inside was just as amazing as the outside complete with swimming pool, movie theater and a stunning view of the lake.  Everyone was great, funny and they all seemed to get along so well.  Would they like me?  After all, I am a little different.  As the night wore on, I knew that this group would be a good fit for me and it just felt right.  The kids also liked it and now want to come every week.  After the kids were in bed that night, I was reflecting on the night and realized that I was feeling happy.  Whoa, back up!  Where did that come from?  That was the first time in months that I experienced that particular emotion.  I just wanted to hang onto it but sadly, I was back to melancholy the next day.  Friday I woke up and felt a little lighter, still sad but better and as the day wore on I found I could focus and concentrate on the more complicated tasks that I hadn't been able to lately and today, I feel that I can breathe.  I am scared to think that I may be coming out of it because going back in is just intolerable.  I only wish I knew why I sink into these depressive states but for now I am thankful for the good day I had yesterday and will be praying for the good ones to follow.  Thank you Lord for seeing me through each day!

5/20/11

"I'm an optimist. I know being a mom can be messy, but I think moms can be, and deserve to be, happy."
Meagan Francis

Parenting Magazine helped author Meagan Francis put out a book called, "The Happiest Mom".  She gives ten steps to be a happier mom drawing from her own experiences.  Its nothing we haven't heard before but she says everything in such a way that you slap your forehead and say "Duh, why didn't I know that!"  She is funny and charming.  There are tests in each chapter to help figure out where we fall in certain areas, quotes from other moms and tidbits of advice.  Its because of her I have decided to seek medical assistance for my depressive state which I hate but she says that we deserve to be happy and since I'm not most of the time, something has gotta give.  So here is a quick rundown of her book but for the full effect go out and buy it yourself! 

step one - take the easy way out
     i have been trying to make things in my life simpler but i seem to be cutting out some of the things i like to do instead.  crap, time to re-evaluate.

step two - aim low and go slow
     in this chapter you learn techniques to lower your expectations.  if you have been to any of my kids parties, you know that i need to memorize this chapter. 

step three - trust your gut
     i have always been really good about this one also but there is alot of good info that is great for anyone who tends to worry a little too much.  you know who you are. 

step four - keep it real
     this is a big one for me. i miss the old me alot and realized that i have forced myself to push young, fun kathy aside and replaced her with old, fat, cranky mom.  so now i am on a mission to rediscover myself and make sure that i am real with who i am with all my different roles.  my daughter said that she likes my tummy because it makes a good pillow, well its still outta here but she can use it while it lasts.

step five - find your tribe
     i am lucky here because i have a great circle of friends although lately, i haven't been asking for the help i so clearly need.  but i am working on it.  so if you see that i need help, don't be polite to me just tell me what i need and make me do it.

step six - go with the flow
     this is so easy for me.  plans change and so do i.  but if you have trouble rolling with the changes then you better study this one. 

step seven - make your bed
     now we hit a snag.  i am better at making messes than cleaning them up.  this will be hard to do especially when i learned my life lessons from a woman who could be a feature on any hoarder television show. although, i have hired a mother's helper for the summer to help me clean out my house of all the extra stuff that i do not need.  next, i will train the children to clean . . . well, maybe i better send them to another mom for that part.

step eight - have a plan
     another one that i had to read twice.  planning is not my thing but i am going to try for general stuff first and see how i do.  maybe i better read this one again.

step nine - look out for #1
     who is she talking about?  I stay out and look at the sunset when take out the garbage and listen to pink while i wash dishes.  isn't that good enough?  no?  well, i got my work cut out for me. 

step ten - love your love life
     hmmm . . . i will revisit this one after i get on medication because i feel that i judge him too harshly at times.  he really is a great guy.

We can all learn something from this book so go out and buy it, borrow it and then throw some food out for the munchkins, lock the bathroom door and learn something new about you. She also has a blog - thehappiestmom.com for more reading enjoyment.

5/18/11

Faking It

There are days that are good, not necessarily happy, but enjoyable at least.  Then there are the other days.  Sitting in the back doorway with my head leaning against the wall because I can't find enough energy to consider what needs to be done for the children, for the house, for my husband.  Some days I spend fighting the urge to cry.  Its days like this that I practice the fine art of faking it.  I pretend that I am happy and accomplished never acknowledging the word, depressed.  It is not a cure but it usually pulls me up enough to get through another day.  I do this on face book constantly but mostly so I don't end up throwing myself a pity party inviting those I know well and even those I don't know anymore to join in and tell me cliche' advice like, 'just pull yourself out of it' or 'cheer up, tomorrow is another day'.  What do they know?  Apparently, I do a pretty good job on face book.  I just ran into someone that I am casual friends with who said that I was missed but is glad to see I am so happy.  Ha!  If she only knew that I almost started crying when she said that.  But tomorrow is another day and perhaps I will cheer up and pull myself out of it. 

5/8/11

My mother never showed her love easily but if we watched closely, we could see it.  She was a ghost in my life, visible but barely there.  It wasn't completely her fault though.  Her parents were stern people who were also very guarded with their emotions.  Then after having three children, my dad starts fooling around on her and they divorce.  She moves us to another town where she meets her second husband and has my little sister only to discover that he was so mentally unstable that she had to hire security just to move us out of the house.  Now she had four girls to support by herself.  She worked seventy hours a week to make ends meet and quite often didn't.  I will never understand how hard that must have been for her, how painful, how sad to see us grow up without her involved with our lives.  She somehow maneged to get us involved in piano, girl scouts and other activities and drive us there, also attending special things like my choir performances or my sisters dance recitals.  In all these things, I knew that she loved us.  But she never even whispered those 'I love you' until I had my first baby.  It seems that seeing me as a mother opened her heart to those precious words that I had always wanted to hear.  So for all those unspoken moments I would like to say thank you to my wonderful mother and I love you very much.  I am so glad that God gave you to me.  Happy Mother's Day!

5/4/11

 I truly love camping with my family although it is so much harder when you have a baby tagging along.  Typically, we camp in a tent however we decided to try out these cabins by Lake Bastrop and I was ecstatic about them.  I actually had a place that I could trap the baby and not worry about her jumping in the lake.  It was a relief for me and made the trip much more enjoyable.  Of course Tim was very clear that we were not camping just having an outdoor adventure.  Perhaps he is right but I was much happier and in the end that is all that matters. 



Naturally, I forgot many things for this trip because that is who I am.  The kids all me Mommy Forgettor.  So on our first night there I run up to the store to buy the food I forgot.  I come back later with some really great dishes that I had been wanting but of course I forgot to get a can opener which is why Tim is opening beef stew with a pair of pliers.  I love you babe!  I also brought back a watermelon but forgot the smores.  That is just wrong.  How can one go camping, I mean have an outdoor adventure, without smores.  Back to the store I go. 



The kids and I were so amazed at the large number of wild rabbits in the area.  Tim thought we could make a tasty stew but the kids and I squashed that idea.  Our sweet sunshine baby was a little freaked out the first morning she woke up.  She actually wouldn't move even when I told her it was alright and tried to pick her up.  She must have stayed there with the blanket over her face for ten minutes without moving.  Silly girl.



We took a walk along the lake and found some really great rocks that we cracked open and saw how beautiful they were inside.  Then further down the path we met up with a turtle.  We decided he must be Brer Turtle from Uncle Remus because just like the trickster in the stories Brer Turtle disappeared before we could properly harass him.  So we figured that he was hiding in the brush with Brer Rabbit just laughing his fanny off while we searched for him. 



The lake had a recent oil spill causing it to be much lower than it usually is which explains the odor of dead fish and the multitude of vultures.  This is also the reason we were able to find those great rocks and this group of dead water plants.  It was kind of sad though. 




Mr. Funny just had to get the plastic spoon out of the lake so he made the Chatterbox wade out and retrieve it.  He had a point.  We don't want to be litter bugs do we. 


We went swimming in the lake and the kids had so much fun.  The water was only a few feet deep due to the recent oil spill and of course the lack of rain so they didn't have to worry about sinking.



I, however, did have to worry because Miss Sunshine likes the water alot.  I kept luring her out of the water so I didn't have to hover over her but we kept going back to the water.  She is so cute. 




In one of my attempts to keep my Sunshine away from the water, I convinced her to put sand on my legs and next thing I knew I was the source of entertainment.  Being buried in the sand was a fun feeling and I highly recommend trying it sometime although you might watch out for funny hubbies who like to draw breasts in the sand.  Of course the kids had so much fun burying me, they insisted on being next.



When I woke up that first morning, I walked to the lake's edge and looked up to see a pale blue sky streaked with tree limbs.  It was so beautiful and I wanted to draw it but I that's about the time the kid's woke up so I took a picture instead which now reminds me of my good friends book cover.



Our Sunshine thought it was so funny to put her swim suit on her head and walk around but that only lasted until the first fall.  Then it was no longer funny to her.  I still think it deserves a giggle.



After we had packed up to head home, we decided to head over the the Dinosaur Adventure.  It was about a half mile walk of various dino statues with fun facts about each one.  Along the way, we would search for scavenger hunt clues and one of them was dino poopies which the kids naturally loved.  Our favorite was the Stegosaurus and Mr. funny and I both agree that the T-Rex was a little too scary.  I could barely look at him to take a picture but I took a second one just to capture the fear in my boy's eyes.  He gets that from me.  I am deathly afraid of that great extinct beast because Jurassic Park showed that it was possible to recreate dinosaurs.  I am getting the chills thinking about it. 









All in all, it was a great trip.  I still felt a little down but so much better than before.  I feel as though I can handle my life again.  I am taking a much needed break from school and spending more time outside having fun and of course, writing again feels so wonderful.  I'm sure I will be back to my giggling, silly self in no time at all.

5/3/11

Happiness

Quote from Parenting Magazine May 2011

"Happiness is brief, ordinary, infectious, ever-changing, nonconforming.  It is a cup of chocolate milk, an off-key version of a Katy Perry song.  Sometimes its the dance recital; sometimes it's the memory of the dance recital.  Finally, it is elusive, like trying to catch fog in your hand."

5/1/11

Life has been difficult lately.  Scratch that.  Life really sucks lately.  My oldest chatterbox has been challenging my authority every second of every day.  My funny boy has been whining about all the mean things that chatterbox is doing.  My sweet miss sunshine has been so very active causing my heart to fail for every jump she takes.  Not to mention that I can't seem to get anything accomplished.  I can't even keep up with the dishes.  Home school has even become wearisome.  Everything seems to stress me out making me scarier than the fiercest dragon.  I started to simplify my life last fall by cutting down extra activities thinking that being away from home so much is having an impact on my stress but I only feel alienated now and still nothing gets done around the house.  Meanwhile, I have noticed that I am not enjoying life as I should be.  After all, I have a great husband, three wonderful (mostly) kids, enough food and money to take care of us and I am able to stay at home.  We are all healthy and we have a strong network of friends and family.  What is wrong with me?  It seems that my lifelong battle with depression demands to be noticed.  Really?  I don't want to do this again!  It seems so very stupid that I should be depressed.  Nothing has happened.  Usually something happens to trigger my depression but not this time.  So I am back to taking the usual vitamins and supplements praying that I don't need to get on anti-depressants.  In further efforts to defeat my affliction, I have revamped my blog and I am committing to write more often which has always made me feel better.  If you are reading this then please pray that God will take this away so I can get back to my old self. 

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